Coaching Blog

16
Oct

No More Books on Leadership, Please!

Beside my desk is a total of about 10 linear feet of bookshelf real estate occupied by books on Leadership. They are squatters there actually; most of them have no idea how close they are to one giant shove into the recycle bin.

It’s not that the collection of books has not impacted my life; they have significantly. I probably owe some of the shape of who I am and what I do to their influence. It’s just that as I skim back through them now or scan through the new books I have not yet read –much of what they are saying sounds remarkably similar, like the same ideas warmed up again only slightly nuanced by the latest big name author. I get the strong feeling that most of them really should have been an article rather than a book deserving only about a foot of my precious bookshelf space.

Here is my sad religious contention: most of us who are in leadership roles don’t need any more books on leadership. We have allowed ourselves to believe that if we could just read the right book on leadership or get the book with the right answers entitled, “The Six Easy Steps to …whatever.” we would find the direction we are looking for.

The truth is, we are mining for ore on the wrong continent. The answer to how God is calling you to lead right now in your present situation is inside you. It is not in a book written by someone else, it is in the jumble of notes, wadded up papers, scribbles and post-it notes compiled by what you have experienced and what you already know, piled up inside you somewhere.

Leadership coaching is helping a leader sort through that vast pile of what you already know to find the gold and to piece together the path forward. Coaching is archeology of the soul.

I would be honored if you would read my latest book on leadership. Here it is: what you really need to know, you already know…trusting your gut and the Holy Spirit to decide what God-sized things need to happen…develop a concrete step-by-step measurable plan to help those things emerge…and find an accountability partner to walk there with you.

What I have just described is the role I am privileged to play as a coach in the lives of leaders who are organically figuring out how to lead congregations, districts and conferences.

Colleagues, we have read enough books! It’s time for courageous, hope-filled action drawn from deep within.

 

Author: Chris Holmes

27
Aug

From “But” to “And”

I thought about titling this piece, “reduce the size of your big But,” and then decided that might be a little too crass given the context. The truth is however, in ministry our “Buts” too often cut short emergent possibilities.

 

How many times have you said to yourself something like, “I want to go to the gym more often, but I don’t have the time?” Actually, both parts of that statement can be true and stand side by side with equal merit and strength. You have the desire for more exercise AND you are very busy. Notice I used “and” as the conjunctive in that sentence, rather than “but.” When we state two truths about our lives using “but” as the conjunctive between those two truths we effectively negate or minimize the first truth. The desire to go to the gym gets trumped by “I don’t have the time.” The use of “but” leads to a “.” While “and” invites a “…”

 

Very often in coaching we assist our clients in designing lives or ministries with greater intention.  That means helping them to excavate new ideas, to reexamine long held positions on the way things are, and to expand the range of possibilities before them. In this exploration stage the objective is to help them be expansive rather than restrictive. One tool to help clients stay open to the wide range of what is possible in their lives and ministries is to challenge their “buts;” literally replacing them with “ands.”

 

A surface change in the use of language can affect a deeper shift in what a person holds to be true. In coaching I encourage you to mind your “buts” and “ands,” calling forth the use of intentional language which preserves for the client a posture of openness, exploration and possibility.  I guess that really does sound better than “reduce size of your big but” AND I hope the thought of it made you smile.